Thursday, November 27, 2014

Running behind...

Quick update - not feeling well. I think I'm coming down with a cold, so I've been resting up, thinking, and drafting. Also, I've been completely bummed out with the situation in Ferguson.

At any rate, I will resume posting soon. I have another series of posts lined up and ready to go, and I also have a movie review to do - very interesting and possibly controversial.

Thank you for sticking with this blog for the time that you have. I put everything I got into this blog, and I want to continue doing that with the hope of helping others. Haven't had a chance to really sit down and respond to emails, but trust that I've read them and I will respond soon

I hope everyone has a happy holiday with friends and fam.

Much love,

Bama (Kevin)

**Hasty post, so spell check and grammar may be off. Blame it on the cough syrup.**

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

More random thoughts

  1. I'm tired of reading anything about Nick Jonas and his excessive gay pandering. Like, male celebrities who claim to be straight but love the gays, why not be more active in advocating issues that impact us instead of dropping your pants?

  2. Speaking of celebs that take advantage of gay culture, I no longer have patience for women in the entertainment industry loving everything gay culture, while disrespecting us at the same damn time. The very industry you're trying to be relevant in is full of gay men and women, all who are paid to make you look good, yet you go around using derogatory slurs against gay and straight men to defend your trial and error road towards relevancy? No. Just stop.

  3. All my life, I've been told about the importance of voting, yet I often feel like my votes really don't matter at the end of the day.

  4. Those out and proud gay men who are in relationships with men who claim to still be conflicted with their sexuality, evaluate your relationship. You don't want to find yourself waiting for your guy to come to terms with being gay. Haven't you already been through that yourself?

  5. I've learned a great deal about marketing and branding, and I'm doing the best I can to apply these tools to my blogging career. Unfortunately, I still feel like nothing's really paying off, but I'm hanging in there. The goal is to get my money up, and I'm still casting my lines out, hoping to get a hook in something profitable. I guess I could try harder.

  6. This blog has come a long way, and I'm proud of the growth.

  7. Really random: What is it with guys on Craigslist, under the "strictly platonic" personal ads always looking for a gym partner? When I used to read those ads for laughs, I drew the conclusion that the poster's hope was to land a fit guy to help them get fit, and in the process fall in love, or at least, eventually fuck around. Tew much!

  8. I think I do want to give doing a fully realized podcast a serious try. Sometimes it's just easier to talk things out instead of writing. Did you hear me mumble and fumble on my "Highways and Intersections" podcast? That audio was recorded prior to me writing the entry. It was sort of like a voice recorded note, so I wouldn't forget what to talk about.
That's pretty much all I can think of right now.


Thursday, November 13, 2014

You cannot simply Pray the Gay Away! No!

In all honesty, I don't want to spend much time writing about the young man that professed his deliverance from homosexuality down at the Church of God in Christ's 107th anniversary this past weekend. Nope, I just won't write about it. Seriously, the video has gone viral, the comments have been made, and the young man has been made fun of.

However, you can read more about it in an article my friend, Viktor Kerney, wrote for The Bilerico Project below: 

You can also check out another entry one of my best friends and MUSED MAG contributor, Dri Burroughs, posted below:

Whether you read one article or both, there's a clear consensus - that young man is hurting. It never fails where enough guilt can be placed upon a person's heart to denounce who they really are. We still live in a society where conversion therapy is STILL happening. It's sad and damaging to place so much pressure on a person to change their sexual identity, and it's not to please a God or Gods, not at all.

To this day, I do not believe you can simply "Pray the Gay Away". I've already discussed it by saying the following in a past entry:

Some have done it, some still do it, and honestly, that prayer is pointless. I remember when I did ask God to release me from my dark thoughts of homosexuality, I wasn't really sincere. I mean, I did pray for the "right woman" to come along and change my mind, but still, that was a half-hearted prayer. As much as I was brought up in the church and heard the "homosexuality is a sin" spiel, I never felt guilty for my feelings at all, and I still don't.
Click here to read the full article.

True acceptance is a beautiful thing, I tell you. You will have people who approve and people who won't, but their approval shouldn't dictate how you live your life. religion or none. I honestly wish the video didn't go viral for the reason of ridiculing or making fun of that young man; however, I am glad it went viral so that those concerned can speak up and out about this media mess. You know what, I will pray. I pray that the young man understands who he is, and I pray that he realizes that he has nothing to be delivered from, except deliverance from hate, ignorance, and all things homophobic.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

(Bonus) Highways and Intersections - Bama Boi Blues Podcast?

(Bonus) Highways and Intersections - Bama Boi Blues Podcast?

Here's a bonus from the previous post, if you don't feel like reading. This is the original audio that influenced Highways and Intersections. Sorry if my voice isn't up to par; it was a late night. Enjoy!

Highways and Intersections

Highways and Intersections

I remember one night coming home from my homegirl's house. She lives about 50 minutes away from me, so it's a good, long drive home. It was very late at night, with very little traffic around me, so the silence of the streets, the nicely paved asphalt, and the bright traffic lights all brought up a sense of nostalgia.

Now, I'm not sure if it was the kind of nostalgia where you'd want to sit back with a glass of lemonade and reminisce, but it was nostalgic nonetheless, which took me back to a place I used to be. With the atmosphere of the open highways and wide intersections, I was 21 years old again.

Around that ripe age of 21, I was still trying to figure out my identity as a gay black male, while also trying connect with other gay black males on a level I wasn't sure about. Establishing honest and cool relationships were hard to come by, and I'd find myself wanting friends over playmates, but I often ended up settling for the latter.

Unsure if I was ready for any type of connection with other gay/bi/ DL men, I would still log on to those gay social networking sites looking for something that made sense, but nothing ever made sense. Nevertheless, there I'd be on the road to meet up with a guy to "chill" for a moment or two. What's funny about it all is the majority of guys I ended up meeting all just wanted to genuinely talk if nothing else.

There was nothing devious or sexual about it. It was the opposite of a hookup, and I was fine with that. Now, that doesn't mean every time I did go out, the intentions of the evening were not clear, but a good chunk of my experience all involved dialogue, and nothing else. Even so, getting to the destination wasn't the basis for my nostalgia. It was the thoughts I had during the drives in between that stuck out to me the most.